Part of the debate – in the Senedd at 7:20 pm on 23 May 2018.
Thanks. Yes, I'd just like to congratulate those involved with the project up there and also Nick for raising this as a short debate. I think there are huge gaps in provision. I get men in my office traumatised by many events that they go through. There is no provision for those men, especially those who are victims of domestic abuse because there's just nowhere for them to turn. Many of them are excluded from their children's lives. Schools will routinely exclude dads—routinely—they won't get school letters, they don't know when the concerts are, they don't know when parents evening happens. Equally, doctors surgeries will routinely exclude men and refuse them information on their children, and some A&Es have done that as well. This is all factual, based on actual casework and experience. There's a lot of, I would say, institutionalised discrimination against dads.
I'll say this now with a very personal comment about me being a dad as well. I grew up in the 1970s on a council estate and I was the only brown face around in those days, and I got very used to being called certain things and being treated in a certain way. And in my adult life, I got very accustomed to being treated, as I said, in a certain way, even in employment situations. But what I've experienced as a dad makes a whole lifetime of racism pale into insignificance with the discrimination that I've faced by simply wanting to be a father. So, I'm really glad that Nick has brought this up. I would thank, actually, those up there campaigning and carrying out these kinds of projects.
These kinds of projects are crying out for funding and you've got other charities, like Both Parents Matter; they do great work. We need to start to discuss this issue of the value of fathers and the ability for dads to play roles in their children's lives without the prejudice that I sometimes encounter in this building. Thanks.